July 7, 2021

Mixtress Ryder and The Patient One’s educator energy is so wonderful to witness. Not only is the energy exchange between the two of them magnetizing to watch, but the way they engage with their audience, both virtually, and in person, is respectful, lively, and most importantly: ACCESSIBLE! They both repeated every question from their live audience for those of us watching from home to make sure we were able to participate at the same level. They spoke loudly, clearly, and took their time explaining all the terminology they used so we were all able to follow along and stay engaged. It was such a pleasurable experience, and I can’t wait to take more classes and learn from/with them.


Mind, Body, Spirit Series is Essential

June 2, 2021

Mixtress Ryder’s series on bottoming is truly essential for any bottom, or even top! With each class, I was able to find tidbits to implement into my dynamic with amazingly positive results almost immediately. Mixtress & TPO’s vulnerability, honesty and their ability to create a safe space with good humor made the classes not only easy to attend, but fun and interesting. I’ve gained tools to not only work on my own core truths, but techniques for communication with my top to deepen our relationship. I’m so grateful for these classes – and cannot wait to see what’s next!


Wonderful and loving communication skills we all need

May 5, 2021

I appreciate the perspective of communication that serves the dynamic. Lots of great examples and plenty of support for questions and comments.

A.E. Kite

Navigating Consent

September 9, 2020

I loved the workshop Navigating Consent. It was well thought through, lots of information and examples, a downloadable handout, contagious teamwork-energy between RK and TPO, good time management and very nuanced and inclusive. After watching the workshop I felt more empowered both in my knowledge and lived experiences.

And a special compliment and thanks to RK for sharing their way of taking care of their own well-being, while simultaneously being genuinely present with the topic and their audience. Seeing that helps me better navigate similar situations in my personal life. Thank you!


Navigating Consent

July 31, 2020

The information and approach to teaching such sensitive topics was thoughtful, intentional, compassionate, and heartfelt. I sincerely enjoyed every minute and loved the focus on healing and growth, with the many ways to best approach that. I learned a great deal and look forward to many more classes.

Desired Restraint

Online classes are awesome!!!

June 11, 2020

I’ve attended the self-care and the hit me harder webinars by RK and TPO so far, and they were so informative, useful, and interactive with each other! I’m fairly new so getting some insight and ideas is really important for me. I can’t wait to watch and learn more! I completely recommend!


Charming both virtually and IRL

June 8, 2020

I attended Hit me Harder in-person when I first entered the public kink scene and loved and connected with the energy, enthusiasm, knowledge, and patience RK and TPO shared during the class. A friend and I registered for the in-person Self-care and Aftercare class right before SIP went into effect and I was so sad it had to be canceled, but ecstatic when I saw it was then being offered online! RK and TPO were just as engaging, fun, thoughtful, and conscientious in their online presence as they were in real life. I highly recommend their classes and can’t wait to attend Speaking from the Bottom!


Loved Speaking from the Bottom

February 29, 2020

It gave me some tips and tools to help open communication for me and my partner. I loved RK’s enthusiasm and warm, sweet demeanor as they present the class. You rock!!!


Best Christmas Gift Ever

January 22, 2020

My partner recently surprised me with a private “Speaking from the Bottom” workshop with RK and TPO. What a gift!! RK is engaging, well-read, and clearly puts a lot of effort into curating the workshop material. They were a wonderful listener. They taught me some top-shelf phrases and practices to communicate my needs to my Dominant partner. They managed to be totally empathetic to my kinky questions AND totally professional at the same time — not an easy thing to do!

TPO was gracious and respectful, full of excellent advice and real-life examples that contributed harmoniously to the class content. Together, RK and TPO are what we like to call a Level 10, Red-Belt, Power Couple. Their dynamic is enchanting, inspiring, and sexy. Three cheers, and 10/10!


Welcoming intro to rope!

January 13, 2020

I was fortunate enough to have RK referred to me by a good friend because of my interest in rope bottoming. I expressed what I was looking for and after scheduling a session RK was very welcoming when I arrived. They provided a lot of really important, useful information about rope safety and answered all of my questions. Despite my initial nervousness RK made me feel completely comfortable and once they performed a few ties on me I felt great about the overall experience! RK has a warm, delightful energy that carries into their professionalism. I hope to schedule something in the future, Many thanks!


Perfection In Private Consult

December 18, 2019

I had the opportunity to speak with RK for a private consultation and they could not have been more helpful; they provided a safe space to ask questions, learn and feel openly without judgement or ridicule. We covered multiple, personal topics as well creating an outline to better navigate relationships (kinky, open, poly and ending). Their information and input were so helpful, it made my Dark Odyssey weekend one of triumph and healing as they continuously provided their support. I couldn’t be more grateful, nor can I reccomend them enough for a one on one consult. If you need a safe, informative individual with the knowledge and experience to assist you with your journey, RK is the person you are looking for.


Faith, Trust, Pixie Dust... and Rope!

October 1, 2019

I had the fortune of watching RK and TPO’s genderfluid retelling of Peter Pan at Twisted Windows. What an absolutely delightful and unique performance combining bondage, humor, charm, and naughtiness. The chemistry between RK and TPO is palpable and they played off each other’s characters well, with lots of entertaining facial expressions and physicality. The rope work was fluid and sexy and incorporated beautifully into the narrative. I was giggling and cheering and grinning all through the performance, as were all the other spectators. Thank you for a wonderfully one-of-a-kind bondage performance — I look forward to more and highly recommend RK for anyone seeking a memorable, captivating rope performance. <3




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